I had a great day!! I didn't have to work today, so I got busy this morning working on the garage. After H cleared out his stuff, it still seemed so much like his space so I reorganized! Boxed up his remaining momentos (bike race tags, key chains, etc.) and put it all away. Came across some old cards from me to him that he left behind, but I just put those in the box too w/out spending time to read them. Then I arranged the remaining tools, set up an area to work on the bikes and projects and I think it looks simply MARVELOUS!
This afternoon, I read my new novel "Eat, Pray, Love" out on the porch with a cold beer and just enjoyed relaxing in the sun, with a gentle breeze blowing. It's a good book so far... the main character is a lady going thru a D, and there's some good insight into the WAS and later the desperation many of us can identify with as we try to "save" our Rs. I'm only abt 30 pages in.
Contacted a L today, and am waiting a response for a consultation.
So, that was my day. Productive and I just love looking at the garage now... I mean I have to drive into it every day, so I might as well make it my space, right?! Ha!
Now, some comments on your post...
Yes, I agree that we can't control anyone. I was a control freak too! Thought H needed to be the H I thought he should be, thought our R had to be the way I thought it should be, blah, blah, blah! I am trying to practice not judging or trying to control with my other Rs as well, since H is out of the picture for now. I mean, the kids need some control/supervision still, but letting them make more and more decisions for themselves is a way to practice letting go. Also, at work... asking what employees think they should do instead of jumping in with my opinion rt away...
Great idea about pursuing something I always wanted to do... hmmm.. gonna have to think about that one awhile, but I like the idea!
Agree about the prize - if we don't come out of this stronger and better, it would be so sad! I know I want my future to be with H, as you do, but if it doesn't work out that way, we'll still be OK. Better than OK!!
