Because she did something "physical" to your son, I would really watch that. You should speak up and put your foot down if it happens again. I called my W out about her anger and told her that she needed to deal with her own issues and not take her frustrations out on our Ds. Her face literally drained and she said she didn't realize what she was doing.
Sometimes they need that "slap of reality".
Your sons didn't choose this. She did. She has to deal with what she's doing and not take it out on you or them anymore.
In terms of your ILs sitch, I'm not surprised she sees you in a hostile light based on her experience.
Stuck,
I did call her out on it when she was living her on how short tempered she was with our 3 year old (our 3 year old acts just like me, but looks just like her, where as our 7 year old looks just like me, but acts just like her). Back then she just started venting about how he doesn't listen and then shifted about how I don't understand as I don't deal with all the stuff that he does in the morning as I leave for work before it starts up. Now she doesn't have that excuse any more as I deal with it the same amount.
The difference is, they don't do it when they are with me. Not sure if it's because my boys know I have a zero tolerance for it or if they are acting up considerally against her. Either way, I don't have a problem with them.
I think she knows it as she's always complained to me about how they don't listen to her. She has often complained aobut how she gets up at 5:30 AM and still can't get out the door for work till 7:30 AM. I get up at 6:10 AM and we're out the door by 6:55 AM. I know she spends about 45 minutes more than I do to get ready, but she says they won't get ready by themselves. Again, I don't have that problem, but that's been the case even before she moved out. Although I see/sense that my 7 year old is acting out now where as he never had before.
My therapist had suggested I get him in for some therapy/counseling. I'm not sure about that.
Any thoughts?
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
