Keel-hauled, but, more time with my kids

[faithisbelieving]

To all...I apologize that I haven't been able to respond to each of you. Thank u for your concern.

I have had little time to figure this out. I do know one thing...I do not want to hurt my son and my STBXw has played a nasty hand. I really have only two choices: play her game and take him out of school early...or..step back and let her drive him to the game.

For me, it's a lose-lose choice. On the one hand, I am a selfish man who will sneak into school, place him between us and ferry him away. On the other hand, I am letting her walk all over me and allow her to show my son that I don't matter.

There is nothing I can do legally (? a motion/court order for me to take him to the game??). The LG does nothing...here..in this case.I argued my case with STBXW..will post those texts tomorrow.

My best buddy told me to go up early to school and pull him.

My other married and grounded friend asked me questions:
-is she driving him to the game?
-will u take him on the field
-do u believe she will deliver him on time?

I told her yes. Her response:
-MY behavior is controlling
-divorce sucks and u cannot micromanage your life
-u can spend the game angry at STBXW or make lemonade out of lemons and enjoy it with S8
-that when she drives her kids they are texting, etc and my time with him on the field is more important

Etc.

I don't know. I DO know that I love my son...that he has suffered....and that I don't want him hurt anymore. If I pull him from school...to satisfy MY needs, I open a whole new can of worms.

I signed my response to STBXW's affidavit and signed my crossmotion. It is heavy hitting and now SHE has answering to do. It is all true.

I will think...tonite. FIB