WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

I actually saw my wife today. Not planned but she called a couple of times this morning and then sent me an urgent text to call her (I couldn't answer as I was in a middle of a meeting). It turned out my 7 year old got sick at school so he needed to get picked up. They are with me so I told her that I was at one of the other plants so I was about 1.5 hours away.

She said that she could pick him up but would need to get back to work as she had to finish auditing a 400 page report. I told her that she could just take him home (not her apt) and will be there in about 1.5 hours.

When I got there, she was sitting on the couch and my son was resting. I thanked her and she suggested on a few things that I should give him. I didn't have all the the stuff so she offered to pick it up and bring it back. Then she asked for some advil as she wasn't feeling well.

I noticed she wasn't wearing her "pseudo" wedding ring (her real wedding and engagement rings stopped fitting her about 3 years ago so she got a pseudo one until her weight stabilized to the point we could get everything refitted). Stupid me asked her about that. She said that the pseudo one didn't fit now as her fingers have gotten really thin (where as she gained 20 lbs). It's very odd, but they did look very thin. Anyway, I commented about how it looked like she lost some weight (she's been trying to since she moved out 5 weeks ago). She said she lost 4 lbs so it must have all come off her fingers. Takaing Sandi's advice, I said she looks really good to me with a smile.

We chit chatted a little more, before she left to pick up the stuff. She did mention about how she had an appointment last nite, but didn't elaborate, nor did I ask. I wasn't sure if she was waiting for me to ask. I really hope it was for the right kind of individual therapy, but only she knows. Oh well, whatever.....

She brought back everything that was on my shopping list and I thanked her for helping.

She then called later in the day saying she could pick up our 3 year old if I wanted to just stay home with the 7 year old. I told her that I had already gotten him and were on the way home. I said I wished that I would have gotten the call earlier as my 7 year old got sick in the truck (of course the plastic bag had a hole in it) so it was all over the back of the truck. She said she was sorry and I heard myself say that she didn't have anything to be sorry about (I think I over stated there....)

Anyway, after baths, I had my 7 year old call her to tell her how he was feeling. She called me back about 45 minutes later asking for computer help. The boys were still up watching a movie so I just told her that I'll find out and let her know.

I think the biggest thing today was during dinner, my 7 year old, who has been stuffing his emotions about the entire situation, cried when my 3 year old starting being angry about how mommy still hasn't come home yet (my 3 year old is VERY expressive of how he feels about it). I saw my 7 year old crying and I hugged him and told him that I understand as I'm sad about it to. He said I had told him it was ok to be sad about it. I said I know and it is and I started to get teary eyed too.

I'm not happy that my 7 year old was sad, but am glad that he's at least starting to express it instead of constantly saying he didn't want to talk about it.

I guess this is a case of be thankful for the little positves.....