WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

She slapped your son? Does she normally discipline them like that?

If not, then I'd make sure she's not taking out her frustrations on them.

She has NEVER done that with the 7 year old. He is her favorite, do no wrong golden child (which he usually is - a real rule follower). On the other hand, the 3 year old is on the other end of the spectrum (not even a rule breaker, but a rule maker). She has gotten really frustrated at him and yelled at him and slapped his bottom (when he was wearing diapers), but VERY infrequently.

I have noticed that over the past year she has gotten very short tempered/fused with the kids. Never paid it much attention until she dropped the bomb. Then I saw it really get short. Because of that I've really been watching mine. I haven't been perfect, but when I have, I did talk to the boys afterwards.

She still hasn't done anything to help herself in that department, so all she's doing is letting things build again in herself and since you're not there to take it out on you, I'd hate to think she's punishing them for it.

I'm concerned of her taking it out on them as well, as about 6 weeks after the bomb, before she moved out of our bedroom, she had said during one of her "pity parties" of how now that she has "baggage" she will never find the happiness that I've stolen from her. She has said that a couple of times. I didn't know how to react when she said it. I was completely suprised and disgusted by the statement.

I truly hope her appointment last nite was for therapy.