My H has been fairly "nice" this whole 2 years. In fact, exactly one year ago he wined and dined me (I foolishly thought my DBing was working) and then on the way home told me he was going to file the next week - say what?
But I do think perhaps my new found strength will throw him - and I'm prepared for anger when I tell him what I expect out of this D.
Dawn - You wouldn't believe how much smoke my H has blown And his long-term consistent behavior? Well, 2 years of total enmeshment in OW's life - nursing her through surgery, taking care of her 12 cats, spending time with her family (including Christmas), putting $20,000 on credit cards (his thank goodness), giving up his beloved hobbies and dogs, distancing himself from his mother and sister, and oh yeah - his callous disregard for my well being - pretty much sums it up. I finally get it.
But another thought - he said from the beginning he wanted to start a "new chapter". Then he switched to a "fresh start".
Well, he's been playing house with Catbitch for 2 years now. I think the "fresh start" is not so fresh anymore wouldn't you say? He's in an established relationship. Surely the honeymoon period is about over.
I do believe it's my turn for that "fresh start".
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
And his long-term consistent behavior? Well, 2 years of total enmeshment in OW's life - nursing her through surgery, taking care of her 12 cats, spending time with her family (including Christmas), putting $20,000 on credit cards (his thank goodness), giving up his beloved hobbies and dogs, distancing himself from his mother and sister, and oh yeah - his callous disregard for my well being - pretty much sums it up. I finally get it.
