Ok gang, I just want to interject something real quick as I see the same exact conversation going on over and over again.
Kalni is basically one after dinner mint away from being a WAW herself. Read all of this stuff she writes and it will be very clear to you. She has stuck with this a lot longer than most women would.
I think we are past the basic DB101 stuff here. She has DBed in the past, gotten things to where she can see some clarity of what the situation is. Now it is a matter of figuring out how to "fish or cut bait".
35 threads to go now. Seems to me you simply have to make a decision and stick to it. Personally I don't understand how you stay on the merry go round when the view is the same no matter when you open your eyes on the ride. Me, i would get off the merry go round and let him ride it alone until he gets himself together enough to decide if he wants to be the husband you need or not.
I just don't know how long you are supposed to go on without the simple things that you are missing. I also wonder if it may be time for you to talk with one of the DB coaches here and figure out if there is some other tact that you may want to take. You are getting the same advice over and over again here Maria, maybe a fresh perspective would help.
One last thing and then I will back off. When you get involved in the game that you are currently playing in your marriage and neither party (yourself included here) have their hearts 100% in it, it just isn't going to progress. You either commit to the game and give it your all or you get off the field until your heart is back in it.
