Good point, all of you...reaffirming my need to comfort...although in R I would have normally stressed out too and said "[censored]! What are we gonna do...you better figure it out!!!" And basically just stresses him out more. Trust me, he is feeling it HARD and wouldn't have called me otherwise. I was definately NOT overly comforting...just more matter of fact. so...I felt that he was feeling out of control and trying to tell me that the finances were too much for him to handle. Not that I actually feel bad for this, but in the R I have never done any of the financial work, even when I could tell at times that he was overwhelmed...or when he actually even told me that himself! So...trying to have a little more backbone was a 180 or so I thought. Also, I decided that this is the time I need to pull out the L card...and see what happens. He needs to know that I am not going to just stand by when he is screwing up our finances. So I am trying to find a L to talk to ASAP. (I probably should have done this awhile ago I know!) ANyway...tonight might be a hard one. He is picking the girls up and taking them for the weekend. (I am going to visit my Grandma who is in the hospital...she's 90!!) D8 already told me of SO many plans that they have with their Dad for the weekend. And of course it was a blow...crushing actually. I am going to get ready now for my "night out"...gotta look extra hot tonight. Oh, and I am going to ask for my house key back. I will probably be back here when he takes them with mascara down my face in my pretty dress posting on DB and how pitiful I am. I hope they don't get too used to being without me. By the way, does anyone think it is a bad idea for me to casually (NON-emotionally) mention to H that I DO NOT want him bringing anyone around the kids...since it is his first overnight weekend with them...I REALLY don't think that he would but I thought that if I mentiion it as "we" need to agree that it is not cool to do that...he might wonder.....???? Thoughts?
