< -I forgive him for being human and making mistakes. fb2 please, listen to me. K, I'm listening. Forgiveness is actually not that simple; its extremely difficult; I for one cannot yet forgive my W and maybe never will. The fact that you are still at 50% commitment says you are holding back a lot. The very thought of the OW throws you off balance. Its clear H is still walking on eggshells even tho' you say he's "comfortable". He still denies the OW and is not comfortable telling you everything, why? Because forgiveness requires him to be confident that you are at 100% and that's a huge step for you to take. Will he take you for granted after that and will the cycle repeat? Maybe, maybe not.
Family of origin creates all kinds of troublesome behavior patterns. All of us have to face it. My parents R was exactly like your parents - mom was dominating, dad strong and gentle - but the M was on solid ground overall. And a lot of how I turned out is based on them. My W's parents were totally messed up. That explains a lot. But that's the way it is with most families. You have the ability and the opportunity to conquer all this if you put some positive energy into it. Yes, you are working hard, you've done so much but ... you are still at 50% and key is you have the opportunity in your hands to remedy the 'sitch'. Any idea what the alternative feels like?
Well, what do I know, my thoughts are worth less than 2 cents but I'm concerned for you.
