Maybe it is a guy thing of not wanting to speak anymore with our X's. Braveheart, my brother and my father all have no contact with their X's. If it were not for the kids, I would be so very happy to never ever speak to my XW again.
As Snodderly says Sun, do you want to continue waiting around thinking for the next 2-5 years that your H may (very small chance) decide to come back?