First of all, you were uncomfortable with him there. So, he seems on target there. You wanted strings you didn't have, i.e. the strings to control his personal life and how he spends his money.
Second, why in the world are you letting him out of child support?
Third, do not use your child as a tool to punish your XH. If the man was trustworthy enough to have in your house, your kid can spend the night with him.
Fourth, make your R with XH strictly business. This current sick R is not good for anyone, least of all your child, who has been jerked around by it (as much by you as by XH in this latest stunt) and hurt monetarily by it.
Finally, don't help pack his bags, lol. He is not your friend, lover, husband, or child. Stay out of his life. Keep him out of yours.
