It's a very fair question...when my idiot brother left his 1st w, he ended up spending MORE time with their daughter. Ironic. He's a better dad now, but that is not saying much. He missed a lot of her childhood (was missing it anyhow, prior to the div) and does not know what he missed. Literally. But he's starting to get that I think. I THINK. She graduates this year and her stepdad (oh, btw, my brother did my ex sil a HUGE favor by leaving her b/c she is so much happier now than she ever could be with my self centered but lovable brother. He was/is just all about him. So, she ended up happier AND showing their d what a "real R" is like. Oh yes, very ironice b/c she was so heart broken at the time he left her. And i still stay in touch with her and we even vacation every other year together. Our kids are close, and it's no thanks to my brother, that's for sure).
Anyhow, you ask a fair question that HAS been asked on this site and there is a forum for it. Check it out and look for smartcookie's thread if you can find it. She says that most LBSers who finally move on and really truly GAL, TRULY, end up feeling surprisingly happy. And at peace. I get that. I really do.
((( j )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
