Ok, here's something I just don't know about. My W has now indicated a couple times how she feels I don't really care about her because I haven't ever asked anything about her R with OM, which is of course very important to her. She told me our MC encouraged her to tell me everything, but that she couldn't do it, and then said "Why haven't you ever asked?" I said "I've never felt it was any of my business." She didn't have a reply to that. Even though it might rip my heart out, again, if I truly love her, should I ask her to tell me everything? I think she will tell me if I ask. Is it possible it could actually facilitate some healing? At least the walls would be down.
I think the women can give you better perspective than me but here goes.
1. She wants to point out what she is needing. 2. She wants you to man up - she won't bring it up, you won't ask and it very much is your business. 3. I think she wants you to stand up for her. Set some boundaries and tell her that she is your W and that you want her to start acting that way. (This is you acting like a H.) 4. You can show her what she is missing without pursuing.
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She said ok to dinner and also said she hopes I realize that she grieves every single day for the loss of the life she hoped to have with me. I replied simply "Me too".
"Me I'm not grieving, I am working on becoming the best FutUnk I can. I realised some of my mistakes and am working on them for myself. If you give me the chance I will be the man you need."
Don't agree with her! Show her you are growing, thriving and living thru this stressful, difficult and painful period. Don't match her moods this is a opportunity to lead. You can handle it. Strength and Honor Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
