So the 2x4 is it covered with Charmin? Maybe just one layer....
I've been working on this, but maybe not strongly enough. He's heard me say not to call me names, but maybe it hasn't come through loud and/or clear enough.
Quote: They say one of the things our WASs want us to do is show some backbone and independance of them. Partly I guess because in their minds they believe they were drowning in responsibility to us for which they were not being acknowledged (Patted on the back constantly etc).
I am definitely doing this...I can take care of myself and for the most always have. I have lots of resources for pretty much anything that comes along and when it comes right down to it, I really don't need him to do anything if he doesn't want to, but it's our house and it should be his responsbility.
Quote: DO NOT allow yourself to be his whipping post. Standing your ground will not scare him off for good believe me.
In thinking back over the last six months, the times that I did stand up to him and tell him I didn't care what he did, just leave the house, I'm changing myself for me not for you. I did tell him okay yell one night, right after he called me stupid that I was not stupid and to never call me stupid again!! And, that was the night that he ended up coming back and saying he "would sleep in the basement" I was so stunned I didn't know what to say and said something that made him head back out the door...I think I said something like "what about OW" and that's when he turned around and left without a word. That happened about a month after he left. The two other times that I really blew up at him, that I really thought I had totally blown it, he came back and didn't carry through on any of his threats.
Maybe the time has come for me to put my foot down, to say no more.
He'll say it's his house if I tell him to leave and then not leave...he is paying for half of the expenses.
