You are my inspiration, also. What you wrote yesterday, “Remember Me” I’m going to recreate and frame it as a reminder…that was great!
Even though I was enlightened by your insights, things are still the same. H came over last night, H was trying to find fault with something I did. The downspout along our back garage was crushed in, I ran into a few months ago with the lawnmower and H wanted to know how I did that…at first I couldn’t remember that I did it then remembered it was during the summer and he’s just noticing now. He said any idiot would notice and so when I walked out to look, I made myself look like an idiot…H got mad and said he was leaving…geez, but did stay. When he first got there, he couldn’t decide if he was staying or leaving, trying to say things to get a reaction. He was like a bouncing ball.
He did go with me to pick up a new TV and stand for the TV. I could not lift the TV or stand so he had me call our neighbor over to help. Neighbor was more than happy to come over and help, in fact his wife said she was glad I called because she’s had to call for help in the past. So neighbor wanted to know if we watched TV down there and I said I was transitioning us down there and also it’s a great place for football parties. H didn’t say a word.
H asked me where old TV was going and I said upstairs in the bedroom, he smiled and said no it’s not, I said yes it is. He did take it up there, I should have said “our” bedroom, but didn’t.
He then fixed the sliding glass door in the lower level so that it shut tighter. I had to go down there so he could show me what he did in case there was a fire. I said I hope there’s not a fire.
I tried to give him a hug and kiss at one point, but he pushed me away. At first I was hurt, it was a jerky thing to do and then remember he’s a “child” and then I didn’t feel so bad and got over it.
Then it was time for bed for S, I asked if H was going to lay with S and H said why should I the last couple of times you went to bed anyway. I didn’t tell him why, should I have? I went to bed because he never says goodbye, basically he gets ready and leaves and we don’t talk or anything so what’s the point of staying up?
He did bring the downspout up again on the garage, but I kind of made light of and we did laugh about it eventually.
He did mention something to S about taking him in the woods on Saturday to put up tree stands. I'm going to at least offer my assistance, H really cannot do it on his own and I don't know if S19 will think to call nor will H call him.
I did read somewhere that in MLC, spouse is the first target and then children...which makes perfect sense when I think about how mean he is towards S19.
