At least you're thinking of things you want to do. I really enjoy hanging out with my D's too. Nothing wrong with that. Mine are older, so I can go out and do other things too. Remember it doesn't have to be big stuff. I work and take care of home and yard and take classes when and where I can (working on degree). Still, I do things I'm interested in, like making jewelry, art, etc. You can work on you at home too. Just a thought.
The biggest thing (IMO)is detaching from him. With him there all the time, it's really hard. Don't know if it would help you to have him come and pick D4 up and take her with him to spend time and then drop her off without staying, but it's something to consider. I think it takes alot longer to truly detach when they are in your face all the time. Just my 2 cents.
