Originally Posted By: SmileysPerson
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she is really afraid that if she were to initiate a D that I would get "all ugly and confrontational about it".


Gosh, Batman! Really?! Divorce -- "ugly and confrontational"? Whodathunk?



Yep, whodathunkit?

Mrs. Thinker actually told me the other day that she is still thinking that D would be the best solution for her, but she is afraid of "who I would become in a D"

She used an example of a conversation we had a month or so ago. Funny, I remember that conversation, but don't recall being ugly at all. In my recollection of the convo she started talking about her fantasy D - happy kids happily living with her in our house while I moved out, coparented, continued full support of her as a SAHM, and took the kids on the weekends. I replied that in no circumstances would I accept less than joint custody, that I had no intentons of being the one to move out, and that no matter who the kids were with at the time, they would have to be in full time day care because even with child support, etc she would have to go back to work full time in order to support herself and the expense of a second household.

So that is what she calls ugly and confrontational - bluntly stated reality.

What would she call something that is truly ugly?


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