Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

I see the point, I think I will dial back my "helpfulness" on this so I am not enabling so much. The hard part is how to do this on the separation agreement we have been discussing. I don't want her to run off to the lawyer again and file; I would rather we control it ourselves. I don't forsee stopping the sale of the house, us living separately, etc. My DB stuff is going to take time and it will be down the road to hopefully stop the D from being final (or after).