It's a funny feeling. This 'coming out' to the kids has left a lot of pressure off. I don't have to worry about them asking me where Daddy is, how come his car isn't here, where are his clothes etc etc. Now I can relax a lot more and not have to worry about being 'caught' all the time. I don't know how ANYONE can have affairs and be secretive, it's SO MUCH WORK!
But I feel much lighter!
In fact, it has made detaching a lot easier. I really don't care where H lives. I have not asked and I don't intend to ask where Daddy took them or where Daddy lives. So what if I knew, what difference would it make? It would only hurt ME!
I am sorry guys, but I am having second thoughts about trying to win H back. I am detaching. My life is pretty good. (I have no lover, or partner but I believe that will come in time.)
I am thinking, why not instigate a D? Not to win H back. But just to divide up the assets etc and start fresh.
I know this is a DB website. But am putting out there to weigh out the pros and cons.
Why not?
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
