PM Thread #6 - New Life for Number1 - Me

[PositivelyMommy]

H came by today to pick up the kids for dinner bc our C said that he needs to see the kids more after breaking news. D7 wants to see where Daddy lives so he said he would take her. I, obviously, was not invited so I took the oppty to call up a girlfriend and have dinner out with her while H took kids out to dinner by himself. For the first time. EVER.

Well, I brought up the trip to MIL's again since last time we spoke, he has asked ME to look into exchanging tickets or postponing trips or whatever. I told him what I found out, which was of course there would be a penalty if dates were changed. etc. He did not look happy. In fact, his whole face changed. I know what he is thinking, 'This is going to cost more money and it's because PM won't take them like she said she would. And I don't have time to do it now, I have too much work.'

Anyway, same old too much work routine. So now he is worried about money as well. Good. This is the FIRST TIME EVER I had said NO to him or his family. And THEY DON'T LIKE IT.

I know they will try to convince me to change my mind. I know my H is hating me right now for causing so much trouble and put the burden on him to take kids to see his mother.

But I DON'T CARE.

I think I am so close to DETACHMENT.

In fact, I think I like it when I stand up for myself. I like it that H is NOW FINALLY beginning to suffer the consequences of his choice to leave me and so he has even more parenting to do, as in tonight with the kids on his own and maybe even taking kids to see his Mom.

I don't think he realizes just how much I did so that he has all the free time to pursue his high-flying career. Now, I am taking a step back and he has to step up as a father.

Good, the kids need a father. We will see if he will step up or give up.