Quote: Quoting T24N: He's waiting for you to validate him. He needs to feel safe that YOU aren't always looking at him or thinking that he's a world class loser because of what he's done.
This easily can be turned into a goal towards seeking what brings you closer together.
Quote: Quoting Cathy: H was the one that said "if we're going to do things separately than I might as well not come back" thus the thought to invite him to the concert. He doesn't really like Shania so maybe I won't, my sis is going with me anyway. She would give up the seat if someone else wanted it and I wouldn't be disappointed at all if H didn't want to go, just trying to put an offer out there to see if he'll bite. So maybe I should use different bait (aren't you proud of me KAW?). My H is a little bit like a muskie, they're hard to catch, you can throw all the muskie baits at them that you can think of and they don't bite. When you've completely given up and stopped trying then you end up catching one and boy do they put up a fight. I think maybe the way to go is to invite him to do something with son and me.
I see this as a viable option to works towards the goal T2 pointed out, but perhaps a smaller step can be taken in the nearer future ... like maybe asking if he would like some help putting up the stands this weekend.
