Quote: Quote by T2: : All this back and forth is not nearly as one sided as you might think. It's not all in his court...a great deal of it's in yours.
He's waiting for you to validate him. He needs to feel safe that YOU aren't always looking at him or thinking that he's a world class loser because of what he's done. His reaction to his sense of being rejected by you in any way is to revert back to his MEness. Which, ironically, is what probably built up your resentment to him that started this whole cycle going on between the two of you.
WE have to break the old patterns by responding differently to THIER OLD behaviors when they rear their ugly heads.
This really got me thinking, I didn't get it, but I think I see now what this means. His MEness was not him being mean or selfish, but him feeling rejected by me and thus the reason he acted this way. Then I reacted to what I perceived as his meanness and selfishness with my criticism, sarcasm and I don't care attitude.
Quote: Which, ironically, is what probably built up your resentment to him that started this whole cycle going on between the two of you.
THIS IS SO TRUE!! I feel like I'm finally seeing the light, finally. This is still sinking in and processing, but this might be the break through I've been looking for...I love you T2!!!!
