I totally agree w/Trapt...it's a good road map, but I caution everyone that the stages are just that...stages. They can bounce around in them and it will take them as long as it takes to get through them. A crisis is as individual as the person who is in crisis is. Some will act out worse than others and then there are those who are just a blip on the radar screen.
Again, a good road map, but each reader must consider the detours, pot holes and bridges out along the way. Each crisis is different and yet may appear to have similiar traits. Timelines that HB discussed in her original postings were something she observed w/her husband...each will be different, some longer, some shorter, depending upon the individual.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
