Snodderly I wasnt trying to point out that anyone has been harsh with ME. I have heard people be harsh, and not just on this board. Also I dont talk about how much I miss my xh to my son. I did this at first, but I stopped that immediately. All I do is try to get him to talk to me about anything. I have asked him if he has plans with his dad and I have at times told him he should go spend the day with his dad. BUT I d.ont pursue this daily. I mainly just try to talk to him about anything. I will ask him what his plans for the day are or I will ask him what he would like to eat. I ask him about the job hunt, just anything, but he shuts me down. I then just let him be. He says his dad is looking at getting him a job somewhere so I will let them handle that. I try to not pressure him, but we sure could use the income. I would love to just sit at the dinner table and discuss the day but that aint happening anytime soon.
Snodderly I was afraid you were going to say 2 to 5 years. Boy thats a long time to wait to be friends with someone you have loved for over 20 years. Someone you shared your whole life with, someone that knows you from top to bottom. And when I mean wait, I dont mean sit around do nothing kinda wait. It just seems so long. If my xh does speak to me, its always at work and always quick.lol
