Mnt, regarding the question about my time spent away, I am from US but have been living in UK for years now. The reason I’d go for a long visit was that it is the only time I got to ever see my family. I was grateful for the chance to be able to do that. A lot of the time H would come with me, but bc of his work he would only come for 2-3 weeks then I would stay on for a little extra. My visits in the recent years are a lot closer to the 2-3 week times too bc of my work. It was a lot easier to go for a month when I was completing my further education(ie summer/christmas breaks). We always continued a committed relationship throughout, and I have no doubt he was faithful throughout this time. We called each other a lot, him as well as me, however maybe not every single day as I was really busy! I know that when I was really busy when I’d get in there would always be messages waiting for me from H. But that whole dynamic is not there right now.
I need to keep focused on not doing the things that are not going to help my sitch, like you said. I need to stop and think is this going to help? And if not then just vent somewhere! That will be a new goal or sorts for me. I think I was sticking to it before but have slipped.
Me-27 H-28 M-2.5 yrs T-8.5 yrs No kids B 1/09 S 2/09
