H just moved out, 13 months post-bomb

[Kalni]

Hi Dawn,
regarding the question you asked about your friend mediating... I often have thought myself that I wish i had a person that I trusted to be strong enough and impartial to "take in" all the frustration, to mediate in that sense for me and H. I still havent found a victim Your friend is very courageous to offer her help and I hope she sees something hopeful in your situation.
I believe that often a third party can keep the communication meaningful and as a result effective.

I didnt understand though the closure comment? You said your goal is clear in your head and I wonder do you doubt she accepts your goal and think she is, this way, "trying to help you find closure faster?". What if your H agrees in that context, would you still be willing to do it?

I doubt he will agree unless your friend has very covnincing powers. If he is a pleaser I understand why he didnt flat out said no. My H is like that . But you never know. People on these boards surprise us often...

Stay busy and strong(what kind of job do you do btw?) Try to fix your sleep routine. It sucks away your good energy.
K