I'm just posting on the new thread to check in here. Oh the cooking class was just an idea I threw out...but yes, the more I think about it, the more it could help you. My father passed away so no, you can't take his classes but there are a ton of them.
Back to the backslides--Kevin you KNOW you are going backwards when you COMMENT on where the heck the mil/sil/wife sat and why...you do know this right? I need to know that YOU recognize it's UNhealthy and YOU WILL stop it b/c YOU MUST stop it. That's what the c and meds might help with.
It's a circular thought disorder wherein you keep "looping around" in circles and you really limit your own growth or ability to LIVE and GROW....and your focus was NOT really on your girls at all. One sentence about the show your d was in and I still don't know what SHE did, I just know where the mil/sil/wife sat and how you WONDER what THEY meant by SITTING wherever...
See this is not right or healthy. You were NOT "present" for your d's show. Physically yes, but not mentally OR emotionally. Nothing happy about what your d did, and LOOK at the post. Look at how little you wrote about YOUR D at HER SHOW!!! Now check the number of lines and comments YOU devoted to "the show and what your d did" (one line, kevin, ONE) and then count how many lines you wrote about the "poop"....who sat where and how it made YOU feel....a bunch of lines! COUNTLESS....so that is STILL putting your neediness ahead of THEM and their needs. Kev, how long is it going to take for you to be their dad first, and a jilted ex h last? When will you put them first? Look, their mom has ended the M, whether it was already broken before or not.
Accept that for now and the next few YEARS. It is so obvious that you must do this. It does not mean that someday you guys MIGHT not rekindle something healthy out of this. But for now it IS over, (and truth be told, for the 123rd time, it was NOT the M you pretend it was. You know this, and yet you persist in the delusional thought process and for the life of me I don't get that. You have to get a grip and you MUST accept that the M you had with your stbxw iS OVER.
well I'm tired so that's it for now. Kevin, come on...we can't do this forever. What is it going to take for YOU to start putting the kids first (even when w is in the same room???? I mean, that sounds like I'm kidding but I only wish I were. Are you going to put them last forever? Seriously? YOU MUST DO BETTER AS A DAD, as I'm sure you want to. And that starts with totalling focussing on them for parts of their day that they can count on you putting THEM FIRST...and ONE mandatory time for that,is [b]their darn shows of any kind...(just a tip, but one I'm confident making)...
I mean, it was d's night to shine, NOT yours to whine... (even if you only whined here or inside your head, the point is the same' which is where YOUR FOCUS is...so again COME ON KEVIN...what's it going to take? Good night! (( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
