Fightingfit thanks for the advice. No disrespect with her biologic parents but with their relationship with their daughter is not where she would listen to their advices and I know for a fact that they will NOT make a difference if I told them. They left her at a young age due to divorce and left her with her foster parents so she doesn’t really turn to them for advices. She just started having relationship with them when I made her moved to where I’m at 6 years ago and at that time her parents were getting back together. I’ve talked to her foster parent who is living out of state who she really treats as a real parent but not the extent of what I know now.
Anyway so 10pm today I did a drive by to that guys house and her car was there. I was going to call her up and just let it out at that moment but unfortunately I left my cell phone so drove back home and got my cell phone but by the time I got back she is gone already. So while driving back home I already made up my mind that this marriage is not worth saving and I wouldn’t take this BS anymore and I deserve to be treated better than this and already made up my mind that if she doesn’t confess she leaves me no choice of calling the guy and calling her work to let them know of the relationship brewing with her mentor and her that would put her career on the line.
So when I got home I called her wanting to let it all out but then she mentioned that she wanted to stop by Friday after work to pick up some of her stuff so I figured that it’ll be better to tell talk to her face to face of what I’m planning on doing. So I held back and just talked to her about my job interview tomorrow and she was very supportive about it and giving me advices. So we had a pretty calm conversation.
Now I know for a fact and no doubt what has caused this marriage breakdown. She has developed some kind of relationship with this mentor/manager. She has told me one time when we’re still in good terms and after the fact I confronted her about the phone calls that she wanted to change her mentor to someone else that she has worked with, I guess she realized at that time that she needed to stop talking to this guy but that never materialized and that something later on must have happened that she feels like that she could never tell me so ending the marriage is her only option way out.
So Friday I’m planning on talking to her and straighten this out. I really don’t want to do or say something that I will regret later. I think now I have accepted that this marriage is over and that I need to move on and just have her deal with the guilt for as long as she can of not confessing what really has happened if that’s her choice. As much as I would like to get back at her I think the best way to deal with this is just let it go and accept what it is and not do something that would just create more problems. I’m thinking of cooking her a nice dinner onn friday and just try to talk to her as calmly as possible as I tell her what I feel.
I think the little hope that I have right now for this marriage is gone now. Thanks for the inputs guys. Any encouragement would be appreciated thanks.
