A new thread, a new outlook.....

[Can it work]

Good Morning PM

I know I've been very quiet recently with regards to my own sitch. I wish I did have more to write but I'm really not sure where to start.

As much as I would love to report that I have some positive progress I don't really think I can. I'm playing a waiting game right now and I'm not really sure how to progress from here. I have little or no contact with my W other than when I either pick up or drop off Wee Man at her house. She's being pleasant enough with me but nothing out of the ordinary. It seems like she's really enjoying her life right now. I'm happy for her that she is but it means things are at a bit of a stalemate.

As for myself, I'm still enjoying myself as much as I possibly can and rarely have low points any more. I would still dearly love for my W to come home but I'm not holding on to that hope too much. I just feel I'm setting myself up for more disappointment if I get my hopes up too much. I've very much enjoyed improving myself and feel fitter and healthier than I have in long time. I'm now in regular touch with a good group of friends and enjoy a fairly active social life.

Wee Man is doing marvellous considering all that's happened. He's developing a wonderfully cheeky personality and is really coming along with his speaking. He always seems happy to go to either me or my W. I'm coping fine with looking after him on my own but know there's a lot of support for me if I need it. My W doesn't contact me at all to see how he's getting on when he's with me. That said, in going dark I don't contact her when he's with her either.

There are a couple of rumours going around about me seeing other women. I deny them to anyone who asks but my W has not yet been one of those who have asked. She's been to my house since I took the wedding photos down and I'm fairly sure she noticed but she never mentioned it at all.

So, that's where I am. I still want my W back, I've improved myself well I think and am already getting attention from other women because of my improvements. I'm not acting on any of them though as I still want to honour my vows and stay faithful to my W. There doesn't seem to be any animosity between my W and I at the moment and the conversations we have are generally pleasant. I'm managing not to act like I'm pursuing and she's not acting like she's pursuing either. I am enjoying my life and keeping really busy with every aspect of it.

Basically, as much as I hunt through this site and the DB/DR books, I can't seem to find any more ideas. I've resorted to basically waiting until we get to the 6 month mark since the separation as I've read in various places on here that many WAS begin to get second thoughts around that time. Right now though, my W seems to be content in her single life. I'm really not sure as to what else I can do except wait.

Kev