Hi John, I have been reading all along and I just thought I would give you my take on your W's recent behaviour. We have a phrase in greek that says "throwing ash to someones's eyes" meaning you blindside them so while they cant see you finish up business, take care of loose ends, hit them, fool them, run away etc etc
I think she is not honest, I think she is manipulating you because she realised the trouble she would get in if you exposed her affair or maybe even the OM told her he cant afford to be exposed and she is doing this for him (yeah I know how that sounds). Be cautious. Be smart. I hope I am wrong. K