I agree with everyone!!! fb2, flat and familiar brought me here. Just coparenting brought me here. No sign of passion brought us the OW, no fun times brought us misery, no work just co existing stripped us of (not our clothes) of any kind oof appreciation for each other. Flat and familiar probably works as H said, when you are 80, not when you are 38. Sorry, my take on that. And you know what, having grandkids seems so far away from me now. I wont be unhappy now for the next 40 years to guarantee/ensure "flat and familiar" when I am 80. Can you udnerstand I am constantly lacking... I am 8 months now feeling miserable and he is ...content.
You said a couple of times -at the bomb you would- or newcomers would-, I dont think that is a valid comparison or argument. When you panick because you lose the person you love, you would be happy with a curse sometimes, when there is NC, people would be excited saying "WOW, you got a recation, babysteps, comgrats!!!". You think that is healthy? NO SIR!! Maybe even at the bomb I wasnt WORTH anything more. Guess what, I am now, or better said, I know now what I am worth.
There is NO issue of living in this flat and familiar state. I am not even considering it. I will die if I try to do that or find another man to give me the excitement I need or shop till I drop to feel content. Been there done that (shopping), sucks!!
And tell me exactly, the "more" I want is a hug, kissing, spending ONE HOUR with HIM ALONE, you think is a result of me working hard? I think it is the absolute minimum of anyone involving himself in a relationhsip.
Think of this: if someone told you that you would marry but that in your marriage you should not expect any physical interaction, fun, excitement,dreaming etc, how many people do you think they would committ to a marriage like that because of the precious flat and familiar? Not for what I signed up for. K
fb2, flat and familiar brought me here. Just coparenting brought me here. No sign of passion brought us the OW, no fun times brought us misery, no work just co existing stripped us of (not our clothes) of any kind oof appreciation for each other. Flat and familiar probably works as H said, when you are 80, not when you are 38. Sorry, my take on that. And you know what, having grandkids seems so far away from me now. I wont be unhappy now for the next 40 years to guarantee/ensure "flat and familiar" when I am 80. Can you udnerstand I am constantly lacking... I am 8 months now feeling miserable and he is ...content.
