WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 9

[confusedinpa]

Well, don't know if Coach is going to set up a caravan for this one but she text me tonite asking if I was still up. I was on the phone with my aunt but after I got off the phone (about 15 minutes) I replied yes. She asked if I could talk. I replied yes

She called me right away. She started by saying how she was mad that I don't call her when I have the kids for her to say good nite like she does. I told her that I didn't know she wanted me to call her and she could call, like I do when she doesn't call me to say goodnite to the kids

She started giving reasons why its better for the parent who has the kids to call. I just said it seemed to make sense and thanked her for letting me know how she felt

She then started gripping about how the kids are really acting up at her place, last nite in particular. I almost said can you blame them considering how she turned their lives upside down. I just empathized with her.

Then she complained about how cold and miserable the weather was this morning and surprised how nice it got this morning. She asked how baseball went. I told her the boys and I had a blast and really talked up how fun it was.

She said that she had an appointment tonite that she had been trying to get so that's why she missed going. She didn't elaborate what it was nor did I pry. She did say she had leftovers for dinner, so maybe it wasn't a date. Maybe it was for therapy, or for her back, or for her hair or whatever. I can't waste my energy trying to figure it out

She then started talking about how busy it was at work. I didn't ask about trying to go to lunch. I just listened.

Then she talked about how the kids were talking about going bowling again. I said I was going to take them Sat so she was welcome to come. She said that she thinks its going to get confusing to the kids. She said we did 5 family things together in the last 10 days. I guess she really is taking what I said about adding to the hurt comment I made last week. Sigh. Guess its a case of be careful of what you wish for. I know its the right thing though

At that point I had enough so I said it was getting late so if there wasn't anything else, I was going to bed. She said no there wasn't so have a goodnite

Maybe I shouldn't have answered the text but at least I didn't try to talk about the relationship. I think...

I did try to follow Sandi's advice of just saying things once and don't let her ping pong the conversation. I tried to listen as much as possible

So is this going cause a Coach to rustle up a caravan?