Okay first of all I have to ask, did you write that post or just cut and paste it off one of mine. LOL
WE ALL ask ourselves those questions. WHY do we have to do all the work? WHY are we the ones knocking ourselves out trying to salvage a M that our spouses didn't put nearly as much creedance in?
WE DO IT because WE'RE the ones who still retain our moral compasses. WE DO IT because WE'RE the ones that haven't lost our way, gone over the edge or lost our sanity temporarily like they have. WE DO IT because we look inward instead of outward for relief from our pain and unhappiness. WE DO IT because, as YOU said, we are the strong ones.
We CAN lead our horse to water...and eventually WE can get them to not only drink it, but to like it too.
If you think you'll get a YES than ask him to the concert. If you aren't sure he'll respond positively then don't. Any situation you put yourself in that MAY result in a negative, will only bring you down. So keep your expectations in their proper perspective (prepared for indecision or a no on his part) so that if he doesn't jump at the invite you won't be hurt personally...remember anything that looks, smells or hints at commitment to them scares the beejezus out of them in the beginning. T2
