"in general the time together is flat but easy and familiar?" Some people would die for just that. Flat and Familiar. Some people enjoy just that. If you asked 10 newcomers here if they would rather have where they are now.. or flat and familiar..
K, I'm not even a newcomer and I'd "settle" for "flat, easy, familiar" rather than the "drama". It's my LL ;-) Maybe you are right now at an "unsettling" age. In about 5 years you will mellow and so will most of us. Then you may really want to "settle". In about 10 years you will mellow some more, you'll be looking forward to grand kids ... then you may want to "settle" even more. Can you imagine K the grandma all settled, family in one piece, H feeling secure to be around his family? OW would be a forgotten nightmare (an old grandma too). Imagine that! Anyway that was the one thing that struck me most in FG's post tho' his claim to fame is "Drama Queen".
