Hi, I am new to this and not sure if I'm doing this right.
M 44 H 44 Married 14 MLC 2005
We have one son together who is 5 He has 2 other kids son 26, daughter 17 from prior marriage.
I have done a lot of reading on Mid-Life crisis and my husband seems to have all the signs. We had a wonderful marriage for 10 years and I always new how much he loved me, now I question all the time if he does or not. This all seem to have started in May of 2005. April of the same year everything seemed fine and then in May I noticed such a big difference in him that was just unreal to me, he started by being just horrible to me and our son, he had never been that way at all to me in the 10 years of marriage and then I noticed one day how awful he was being to our , at the time,1 year old son and I knew then something awful was going on with him. A few months later I got him to go with me to talk to a professional but he wanted each of us to go alone to see him , so I said that was fine, well he only did that a few weeks and he said it wasn't helping him, it was confusing him more,so I keep going for awhile and the professional told me that my husband was going through Mid-Life Crisis then. From 2005 through this year he has had several affairs but never really leaves us, he always comes back but then continues the affairs. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't know if this is really MLC or if it's become a way of life for him. A few months ago I noticed he seems to be pulling out of it but then there was an incident with my family on Mother's Day that hit him hard and he told me a week later he didn't realize how much damage he had done until Mother's Day when the incident happened. Now it seems like he's going right back to what he was doing. I've noticed when he can't handle something he runs and he never was like this at all before, he always was a fighter and made sure he fixed thing instead of running. This is four years now and all of this is killing me and I feel so bad for our little boy, he misses his dad so much and all of this is so hard for him. I feel like just running away from all of this but I still love him so much and I really want us to get back on track again. I know everything I have read says you can't do anything but be there for them because they have to get through this on there own but sometimes I feel like he's playing this game with me, that's why I don't know if this is MLC for sure or not and I'm not even sure what stage of it he is at anymore, it's all so confusing and I am so stressed out. I get feeling good because things improved a lot and now I'm hurting bad again because he's kind of taken off again and is not really even calling like he used to. Does anyone have any advice for me on whether this is MLC or something else?
