You're doing one heck of a job keeping everything in fine order! Be proud of yourself, even if you don't get compliments, okay?
As far as the shower/stay over comment. I think he's testing the waters..to see if you're still leaving the door open a crack. I think you handled it very well. I think him sitting alone on his birthday is telling. Whether he shows it in front of you, he's doing alot of deep thinking and feeling sorry for himself for the position he's in right now. I would imagine there's alot of self-doubt...not just about you and the marriage, but about himself and if he's made the biggest mistake of his life.
I believe this is what they mean by sit on the curb and watch the WAS swing in the wind..by the noose, they themselves, fashioned. If he asks for your help to get loose from that noose, then it will be up to you and you alone to make that decision.
Good luck.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
