Thank you so much PD! I love your metaphor for the 180s. It's so true too. I've noticed the 180s I've been doing have made a difference so I'll continue to do them when he's around. I agree that going dark is the best choice I have at the moment. He really doesn't have a concept of what it would be like to be truly without me since I've been letting him have it both ways. I have to stop taking care of him and letting him think that when he feels like it I'll be there. It's scary to think that by doing this he might think that I've finally moved on and take it as a sign that he's making the right decision. That's my biggest fear right now actually; that he'll move on faster because I'm not around. I guess it's a chance I'm going to have to take if anything is going to change. Either way I'll have a definitive answer of what's going to happen.
Thanks again PD for the amazing advice! You always say what I need to keep me going.
