Working on the L. My name wasn't on the 1st loan, just connected to the place I work, which is why it's good it's paid off now. I don't believe I'm on the new loan, but that's probably a good ? for the L - can I be listed at a co-signer without actually signing? I'll try to find out. Good thought.
I will spend some time now thinking about what to do, and how to move forward. Will contact a L in the next week and get some input on our state laws, etc. Don't want to push towards D but protecting ourselves now is a must.
So, the logistics of that aside, it's been a TOUGH day! The mammogram came out fine which was a relief. Tried not to obsess about H on vacation with OW, but yes, it stinks he took her to a place I would love to be. When the real guy finally surfaces, what will he find? His wife may have moved on, and I am told most of his friends have lost all respect for him. One guy told my BF that I'm much cooler than OW and he's completely lost his mind.
So, if I file for a legal separation or something, I can still DB and become the person only a fool would leave, right? The risk, or maybe better put, the fear I have is by moving ahead with that I imply to H that I'm done. Or perhaps that's the correct assumption I want him to have, so he has to seriously consider what he's doing and the consequences of his actions...
