I hate to add to your confusion, but I interpret things with your W as positive moves. Partly understand the "comfort" level idea that SO2 talks about - I have a similiar R with my exh too as she does - but we both moved on.
Anyway, I guess the point being that there are many ways to see a sitch or event. Re-read my post about the possible reasons for your feeling "bombed" more than once and then think about goals. Start with the ones you had in the beginning, ones that you added since then or changed, and then what still remains true to you and your idea of M.
Doing analytical puzzles helps to shift the brain from moods to rational thoughts and behavior. That is one reason setting goals may help. Crosswords, sudukos etc also work.
