New around here...

[hopeful_cb]

Thanks for that stillloveshim, you are right, he is totally convinced that it is ok as we are separated. I guess I will make sure I don't bring it up again at this point. Did you continue to spend time, hang out with H while all of this was going on?

One thing that seemed to jump out at me that he has said before and then again yesterday is that, I used to go away and he would miss me, but recently I would go and he just stopped missing me. [Thru our relationship I used to go away a once or twice a year visiting family sometimes for a month or 2(when i could manage it)]

I'm not sure what he likes about her so much, I would guess that it is mainly 1. she is there(like all the time bc he is kind of her manager at work+lives nearby) 2.she brings no responsibility to the relationship 3.she hangs on his every word, laughs at all his jokes, general attention giving. (+ probably the kind of stuff we used to do before he started to feel like we had 'said it all' to each other)

And no I don't think he can afford to take her out, but I'm sure he still does. Also I think she is the kind of girl that doesn't mind too much if he has no money. He went into a whole spiel about worrying about me being able to manage money wise after our 'agreement' (he basically said he would keep paying rent til July) I ended saying I can manage just fine, don't worry about me. And he went on to say 'I am sh*t with money' He never had to learn to manage his money. I was thinking yes I know. but am not about to feel sorry for him one darn bit. Just venting a bit...

Also on second look of everything we talked about, I guess I did not learn anything new or that I wasn't already pretty sure of myself, he just actually spoke to me about it. I guess I feel like I messed up as he may now feel like he has to file for D after the comments I made about being disrespectful to me, where as he was not interested in filing before.