Quote: If you coddle him while he's still with OW, he'll never make a choice, he doesn't have to.
Cathy, in my sitch it was a bit different as I didn't KNOW OW was still in the picture after bomb #2.
What I DO know is that CJ had one HELL of a time breaking it off with OW...she had a definite hold on him. And as long as I didn't know and couldn't object...the R continued!
CJ even said afterwards that by NOT being more suspicious or more protective of myself (as in putting my foot down...I think the actual words he used were "had you given me an ultimatum!!! ) I enabledc his r with OW to persist.
NOW, I don't buy all of this. I won't take responsibility for enabling something I didn't know about AND was his decision.
And it's nice in hindsight but who knows what an early ultimatum might have wrought? We'll never know.
) I enabledc his r with OW to persist.