As I have read all the posts by all our BB friends one thing rings true throughout them...ALL of the WA spouses are childlike. They're all like school yard bullies with us. They yell at us, or talk down to us, insult us with their words or deeds. They say and do horrific things that NO ONE besides us would ever accept or put up with. OUR WA spouses are and have always been emotional cripples in one form or another and WE were the one person that took them to heart and proped them up. I think that none of them ever really saw themselves as worthy of us or our love because they have lived their lives fighting their demons of insecurity and self loathing....eventually they turned on us. WE become their scapegoats. WE become the target of thier Payback for the all the world has done to them. WE are vulnerable to them and they use that vulnerability to make us pay for all thier sins...and WE allow it.
I think it says a lot about us, this codependency, we really do need to HEAL ourselves in order to free ourselves from accepting this abuse of our lives, our trust, our love. T2
