Quote: I think that you need to try different thing, but one at a time. I was doing to many at once and I think I was confusing my H.
Maybe you're right, maybe I have been trying to do too much, even I'm confused at this point!
We are separated though, he is living with OW still, but I'm beginning to feel like she might not be an issue for much longer..maybe, hoping. I also feel like I've tried everything and am back to starting over again. If I piece the last couple of months together, there have been a lot of babysteps, steps backwards, and lately one or two big steps along with more babysteps.
Inside I know what pursuing behaviors are, I know what thoughtful pursuing behaviors are, and am beginning to figure out when to back off.
Lately I've beginning to feel that I can't tell my H what I've been doing because it will hurt his feelings. In the same way that he doesn't like bringing up OW to me because he knows it'll hurt MY feelings. Is that normal or does that even make sense? I haven't asked him to do anything with me a in a long time, so maybe I should start trying to bring him back in to the "family." I'm beginning to realize his first reaction/response to something is always going to be negative, but he does sometimes come around if I give him space.
