I don't know how to get the focus back on us. I have been GALing, working around the house, working out, doing stuff for me. I think I have more of an effect on her when I go dark. Which I have been for quite some time, I don't initiate any type of conversation with her. I give her LOTS of space.
My friend didn't have his spouse DB on him. He said he was just tired of it all, he felt he did everything that he could to try to make the marriage work. They were separated for 3 years and then divorced for 4. He said that it was this year that he realized that he didn't focus 100% on the marriage before. He felt bad that he just quit on it and that his ex had stopped asking him to work on it together or get back with each other. Then last week he said they went to counseling and he can now see where the red flags were and how he could have done a better job.
I can see th red flags now, where I could have done better. I can't say that for her.
I know not everyone is getting back together, it just feels that way.
