Over the Shock and GALing 4

[Thinker]

Thanks GF2,

I am going to go talk to a divorce lawyer when I get back from this vacation.

I am in no way ready to initiate D, and I honestly don't believe my W is either. I think she is actually more afraid of a D than I am, and has told me that she is really afraid that if she were to initiate a D that I would get "all ugly and confrontational about it".

That being said, it is in mu best interest to take a real hard look at this worst case option - even if just to stare it down and see for myself that I could handle it.

I am a bit nervous about the potential escalation - I go talk to a L, so dhe does, then the L's get involved, etc...I have not talked to one yet for this very reason.

Any advice from anyone in a similar sitch? I really want to just talk to a L for info, advice and preparedness, and not to start anything.