Hey, I really feel for you. The kids are the hardest part.

I want to ask you (and I must ask myself this question too), can you look back on your sitch and see what has worked for you? Not her, you.

Believe me, my ex is him, him, him too. It is hard to watch. But, how can we get the focus back onto ourselves?

Did friend have any other advice to impart? What made him recognize that value in trying to work it out? Did he talk to you about his process?

BTW- Look around, not "everyone" is getting back together...seriously, we are all walking a tightrope here.