H just called, checking on events of the weekend (graduation)... Asked what I was up to...
Told him a little about my work this am, and that I had cleaned out his closet. He had a lot of shirts he doesn't wear, now lacking on space and hangers! H's voice is noticeably elevated, and says, "Oh, Good! I can bag them up, and bring them to this guy in (his customer). The guy makes nothing, and loves getting my clothes (he had brought them to him before)."
He also likes to be laughed with... major jokester. I think he thinks he is liked/loved if you find him funny/amusing. That works up there w/Words of Affirmation.
And, even when we're in a crowd, he always sets next to me, but away from "the crowd," like, for example, last night at the restaurant (with the 6th graders families), he sits down next to me, and, on the other side is S9, and more kids beyond S9... On my other side are all of the adults (that he knows). I ask him if he'd rather sit in my seat, further away from the kids, as it was kind of loud and wild. He says, "I'm ok, here." Struck me, that he always prefers that... if he's just next to me. He'll engage with the others, but doesn't want to be in the thick of it.
Last edited by mindblank; 05/27/0907:16 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
