Another newcomer - already finding help

[AlexEN]

Sorry to continue the hijack...

Puppy, I couldn't agree with you more... I'm just saying that's why, at least for me, it's so hard to get where SP is because I think the PA makes it so much harder for a guy to get there...

For me, I find it easier to get to where SP is because it seems to me the better place to be in becoming the person who I want to be, that will ultimately cause my WAW to doubt her decisions and possibly reconsider staying as my wife.

JKL,

I think we're saying similar things. I agree with you that that's where "I want to be"... Intellectually, you're right, it's a "better place to be" and it will more likely lead to the outcome you want; but, the psychological torment of the PA, IMO, makes it harder to get there. So, I guess I'd quibble with the word "easier", but I agree that it is "wiser" to achieve the state of mojo-dom.

-AlexEN