Quote: I just feel so trapped, so attacked and yesterday it was really hard to not attack back.
Earlier today:
Quote: He then said it again to which I replied playfully "make me" He came over and grabbed my foot to try to pull me out of the chair.
I kinda forgot about this, but you might have stumbled onto something here! It seemed to work to lighten up his mood.
Quote: ...to call or not to call. Is it pursuing or not?
Again from the earlier post:
Quote: He also wanted to know why I was mowing the grass and cleaning? I said I didn't want to have to do it this weekend, he then wanted to know if I was having company and who it was? I didn't answer.
Calling him could be consider pursuit, but he did open the door for you when he inquired about why you mowed the lawn. You could have let him know what you have planned for this weekend and then say, You're welcome to join me if you're interested.
So the next time he asks what are you doing, use it to let him know you're living your life and invite him to join in.
I can understand about being put off. That's why it hard to tell in what direction you should go in. All I can suggest is when he is being mean, back off so he knows its the way that he is treating you that is pushing you away. Then when he's nicer, work on drawing him closer.
After all, you are working towards creating the time together as good times ... where when he parts company, he feels good about being with you.
