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[AlexEN]

And, in furtherance of what PDT said:

I only ask this because "He/she had NOTHING to do with me wanting to get a divorce!" is standard gaslighting affair script. In almost every (not all) situation that I'm aware of, the betrayed spouse ends up finding out that at LEAST the beginnings of an inappropriate emotional attachment to the OM/OW started BEFORE the deep dissatisfaction of the marriage.

Not only is this often the case, but to add fuel to the gaslighting fire, the "revisionist spin" will say that the deep dissatisfaction went back years and years or that "We were never right for each other."